10 Coping Strategies for Stressed Women – Part I
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. ~Reinhold Niebuhr
There are many different reasons for stress.
Some are based on how you see things, some are based on finding yourself in uncertain situations and still others are based on having little control over what will happen next. For a number of women, it’s all of the above. Yikes!
Once you figure out your nemesis, however, you can design your own program for coping with stress.
I have compiled a list of 10 coping strategies for stressed women. To keep the length of post manageable, I only share 5 of them with you in Part I and the remaining 5 in Part II.
The goal is to master all 10 so that you are well rounded when it comes to stress management.
Coping Strategies for Stressed Women:
- Don’t be a hypocrite. Whether you’re trying to control a person or an outcome, you’ll be stressed out. Guaranteed. Especially if you’re hypocritical. Instead, control your intention and your purpose. Stick to what you believe in without the need to force others to conform. Don’t waiver from what is important to you and you will see how your own consistent behaviour will reduce your own stress. (and influence others)
- Unfortunately you can’t have it all at once – so you’ll need to be patient. Do you feel interpersonal impatience, long-term impatience, or short-term impatience? Whatever it is, impatience is all about you and nothing to do with anything or anyone else. Impatience is about being in a hurry all the time, it’s about having too rigid of a schedule that doesn’t allow for any hiccups. Slow down, open your mind, and relax.
- Share your feelings. Talking about what you’re feeling is a stress reliever, especially for women. Do you know someone you can share your story with? Having someone who listens allows you to be heard and makes you feel cared for. All of which are anti-stress feelings. DISCLAIMER – this is very different from having a “complaining buddy.” Re-telling your stories over and over again and not doing anything about them is more toxic than good.
- Learn to forgive. It’s so easy to hold on to grudges and memories of what others did to you. It eventually becomes your story… something you tell to anyone who will listen. In fact, when you are unable to forgive an injustice, this injustice sticks in your mind and it becomes a part of your identity. Remember, the person who wronged you made you a victim only once. You turn yourself into a victim of injustice every time you relive the experience by telling the story.
- Reframe problems. There is more than one way of looking at the same thing. This is why some women breakdown during intense situations and others pull through. Encourage yourself to look at the same things in a new light and watch your stress levels go down.
Stay tuned for my next post where I reveal 5 more ‘must know’ coping strategies for stressed women.