Contrary to this is low self-worth; that feeling of never quite measuring up, feeling like you’re coasting right through instead of being an active participant in your life, and being disappointed in who you have turned out to be.
If you recognize your self-esteem struggles, whether you know it or not, you’re fighting the battle of worthiness.
Looking to base your value on:
- the quality of your relationship
- the comments of an unreasonable boss
- someone’s opinion of you
- or on the unfortunate events in your life
sets you up to be a victim of low self-esteem… for a very long time.
If your sense of worthiness is like a never-ending roller coaster ride where you feel important and competent one day but useless the next… I know how draining and hopeless this can feel.
The thing with self-esteem is that it’s powered by your habit of thought, not by the stuff going on around you. And that’s the reason you find yourself strapped to the endless roller coaster ride.
Does this sound familiar?
No matter what tool you use or decision you make to change things, your good intentions soon fly out the window when you’re faced with situations that trigger the same old thoughts about your abilities and worthiness. Willpower quickly disappears, the habit takes control, and going back down to that place of self-disappointment and hopelessness is automatic.
So how do you end the self-esteem struggle? How do you get to that place where you Just Feel Plain Good?
Start with an unbiased inventory of what’s going on in your life, your personal belief system, and your ability to cope when things get tough.
Raising your self-esteem is an empowering process and doesn’t have to be painful at all.
Whatever the specific cause of your low self-esteem, it’s time to take a good hard look at where you are and where you want to be.
Build supportive relationships a common way to raise your self-esteem.