Know Your Emotional Trigger Points

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Part 9 – The Woman’s Guide to Personal Empowerment: A Home Starter Kit

Hello again…

The 2nd most vital secret to your personal empowerment is…

Know Your Emotional Trigger Points

To feel empowered, means to be in control of your emotions. Otherwise you’ll find yourself all over the place… and at complete mercy to those who know how to press your buttons.

Emotional trigger points typically are conditioned during our childhood and adolescent years. Yes, how you interpreted past experiences is a good clue to how you continue to interpret current experiences.

But your emotional reactions are really not a mystery and they’re completely reversible. It just takes some awareness of your thoughts, reactions, and feelings and connecting them to the correct experiences.

By identifying the source of the trigger it’s possible to heal the old emotional wounds and no longer react to the triggers as they occur in the moment.

Unhealthy emotional reactions often lead to conflict because in your attempt at self-preservation, the triggers provoke you to behave in a hurtful way.

When your spouse, for example, pushes your buttons, you may feel angry, powerless, or maybe resentful. These emotional reactions directly impact your next words and behaviours which can be as negative as you’re feeling. These reactions affect your commitment to you relationship, your desire to do your share of the work, and your ability to enjoy life. And all of these will affect the quality of your relationship with your spouse.

But once you understand your trigger points and their root cause you’ll have complete control of yourself. And other people’s comments will have limited effect on you.

You’ll totally be a calm, collected, and an independent woman!

One way of managing your reaction is to know what kinds of situations are most likely to press your buttons. So, here’s your task for today.

Your Task:

1. Know what kind of things set you off emotionally. Can you see a general pattern instead of particular situation? (e.g., feeling powerless, feeling undeserving, feeling like no one notices you).
2. Identify how long these types of situations have been your trigger point.
3. Link your trigger point to the very first experience you remember when this all started. What interpretation did you give to the experience? How did that initial experience condition you for the future experiences?
4. Create a resolution for this experience by coming up with a healthier interpretation of the situation. How else can you think of it?
5. Repeat these steps for all your trigger points.

Have fun with this activity. It’s another way of getting to know yourself in a very deep way.

Be Your Best Today!

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