Unable to Make a Decision? Improve Your Decision-making Skills
Ivana Pejakovic B.Sc., MA
Making decisions can be one of the most painful things you have to do. Not all decisions are the same of course and some decisions are easier than others. There may be those few decisions however, the just keep you sitting on the fence and most importantly keep you feeling stressed and crazy. They stop you from moving forward!
Decision making is important for a flourishing life. It improves the quality of your life and it is important for your physical and mental health. The longer you put off making a decision, the longer it festers in your mind and body. The less peace of mind you have. The less you enjoy life. The less you’ll want to deal with it. The more you’ll feel like a victim.
You may catch yourself thinking you would have no problem making this decision if you could only predict the outcome of your choices. Ha! That would be too easy! The crux of the matter is that you can’t always predict which choice is best. That’s just life! It doesn’t mean, however, that you should keep sitting on that fence until you can predict something. The longer you sit there the more physically uncomfortable you’ll be and the more likely you’ll miss an opportunity you would have otherwise enjoyed.
So, what to do?
Things to think about:
1.If you’re undecided, become aware of what your indecision is doing to your mind and body. Do you want to continue living like this?
2.Figure out your choices. There is always more than one choice available. Does one feel better than another?
3.Do some research. Just because it is impossible to predict an outcome doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make an informed decision. Find out as much as you can from objective and subjective sources.
4.What would make you happy? It always comes down to your happiness. This means making the right choice for you, not choosing based on what the important people in your life think you should do. When you’re undecided about what to do in your life, all of a sudden it feels like others are experts and their advice starts to sound very wise. Remember, you are the expert of you!
5.Make a decision no matter what. The longer you sit on the fence the less happier, more grouchy and uncomfortable you’ll be. Even choosing imperfectly will give you relief. It will give you the opportunity to fix the mistake if you did not choose right the first time around.
Ivana Pejakovic, Life Coach Toronto