Your teen is unmotivated? How to turn your teen into a success story
Ivana Pejakovic B.Sc., MA
There are a number of elements necessary for teens (and adults) to succeed in life. To help your teen write his/her own success story, work with your child on the following:
1. Attitude: How would you rate your teen’s attitude? A positive attitude is both healthy and productive. With a positive attitude, your teen will take even the negative circumstances and turn them into positive ones. A healthy attitude can be gained by teaching your teen that not all setbacks are a nuisance. Teach your teen see the bright side of life.
2. Responsibility: Is your teen taking responsibility for his/her actions? Once s/he takes responsibility for his/her actions (the good and the bad) he/she can start connecting the dots of how certain behaviours produce certain results. Responsibility will teach your teen that s/he has complete control over his/her life. What are your teen’s responsibilities at home?
3. Inspiration: Is you teen inspired? Does your teen have enough inspiration around him/her? Inspiration comes from the situations we experience, the people we meet, the mistakes we make, etc. [Note, that TV is not a good source of inspiration]. Without inspiration your teen will feel bored and unproductive, and will experience lowered self-esteem level. Keep your teen active and involved in community events. Remember, everyone needs inspiration.
4. Goals: Can you list three of your teen’s goals? [Be sure these are your teen’s goals and not your goals for your teen]. If not, your teen probably can’t list them either. Goals give your teen something to look forward to and work towards. They motivate your teen to stay on the right track and they will improve your teen’s self-worth. Start talking to your teen about what s/he would like to achieve short-term (from now to 1 year from now) and long-term (1 to 5 years from now). Help him/her to plan how to achieve them.
5. Commitment: What is your teen’s level of commitment? Commitment is the only way to success. Once your teen decides to do something s/he has to stick to it. Commitment is best taught in the family. How are you demonstrating commitment to your teen with your own goals and personal relationships?
Interested in more information? Contact Toronto life coach, Ivana Pejakovic and speak to her about your teen.